Anal Sex or No Anal Sex?

As most people know, anal sex is a very taboo topic in American control. However, I can guess that almost all of us know at least one person who has had anal sex or who regularly engages in it. It's slowly making it's way into mainstream culture. I'm sure it will remain the butt of jokes (ha!) for a long time and people won't be extremely open about the subject at first, but I'm willing to bet that every man has fantasized about it and even most women have at least thought about it. So, let's just throw the idea out there: anal or no anal?


Almost every American man has fantasized about anal sex. Part of it is that it's a cultural taboo, which makes it very tempting, and another reason men want to try it so badly is that most women are so against the idea (again, making it very tempting). The least acknowledged reason why men like/crave anal sex is that the sex is so good. The tightness of the anus feels so incredible on a man's penis and it's unlike anything a vagina can do. It's nothing against us, girls. The fact is that our anus will always give a man a better sexual experience (for them, the tighter, the better).
As for women, it's a different story most of the time. Women have the presumption that anal sex always hurts. The reality is that anal sex, when done right, shouldn't hurt. With the use of lube, trusting in your partner and (slow) practice, anal sex should only be a pleasurable act. Unfortunately, many women have tried it and had terrible experiences because of not using enough lube, their partners weren't careful and loving, they didn't go into it slowly enough, etc. Because of these bad experiences, women give anal sex a bad rap. Another reason women are a lot more cautious about it is that in order to try it, women have to give a lot of trust to their partner. They have to be able to believe that their partner won't hurt them and that good communication will occur before, during and after the act. Oftentimes, men will become so enamored by the fantasy of anal sex that they forget that this can be a very scary experience for women. This is a challenge that can be overcome, but both parties must always consent.


Anal sex is something that can easily be explored within a loving and caring relationship, but it is definitely not for everyone. Exploring anal sex should start with much consideration and communication between partners. It shouldn't be rushed and proper preparations should be taken. Once you've found a person who you feel you can truly trust with such a delicate part of you and you have thought very hard about it, maybe then you could try anal sex. Who knows, maybe you'll love it! Then again, you may hate it. The only thing that's for sure is that it's your sex life, so do exactly what you want.