Un-Lustrous Sex

What do you do when sex loses its luster?

I can remember a not-so-far-off time when sex was always exciting. We tried new positions every other night, we did kinky things and sex was NEVER a thing we had to do; it was always something we needed--CRAVED.

I'm not saying that our sex life is absolutely boring or predictable, it's just lost its luster. Do you know what I mean? Sex seems to be a habit rather than something fun and adventurous. We do a little foreplay, we do the deed and we shower. I just tried to give my husband a sexy massage the other night, and it ended with him getting up and playing video games. That was not exactly where I thought the massage would lead. Then, just last night, we had an argument (as we were getting into sex) about what position to do because he refuses to do anything but girl on top lately. I beg him to do anything else--anything--but he claimed that that position is easiest for him to get off quickly. What?! I was so taken aback when he said this. We used to have sex for over an hour (not including foreplay), which may sound like a long time but it was AWESOME. Now we can barely pull off 45 minutes with foreplay and he's worried about getting off quicker. What's happening to us? We're not supposed to act like this until we've been together for years and years, right? We've only been together for two; this should all still be new and exciting!

I've always been so satisfied with my sex life, but for the last month I'm just sad with it all. I'm not even disappointed; I'm depressed that we are slowly letting our sex life turn into a routine thing, rather than the exciting and passionate thing it's supposed to/use to be. I'm not sure what I'm going to do about this, but I know something has to be done. I cannot sit back and watch sex become an unimportant thing in my marriage. I love sex in all its glory and I'm not willing to settle for anything other than the best!